I'm jealous of my partner's porn. What should I do?

Think about what meaning you give to watching porn and masturbating, and ask what meaning your partner gives to it.

Perhaps you see masturbation as an add-on to sex: something people turn to when there isn't enough sex or the sex is "bad". This can bring up thoughts like "I'm a bad lover if my partner needs something else."

Or maybe for you porn is about acting out secret desires. This can create a sense of distance: "my partner wants something I can't give, or they don't want to share it with me."

Perhaps for you sexual desire is closely tied to emotional attachment and romantic feelings. Then you might interpret your partner's desire as: "they feel something for the people on the screen, which means they could feel something for other people too." Are feelings for other people a threat to your relationship? Is that acceptable in your couple?

There may be a logical error here: "if my partner wants a person on the screen, then they want someone besides me in general, which means they might cheat." But between a desire and acting on it lies a whole heap of actions and choices. It's a question of trust.

Compare how each of you in the couple sees masturbation and porn. They may be about different things.

For example, for you it's about feelings, while for your partner it's about the simple human urge to j*rk off before bed so it's easier to fall asleep.

Either way, you'll have something to talk about.