Wanting more, saying less: what six years of Purpur polls reveal about modern relationships
From 2020 to 2026 you answered our questions about desire, consent, money, family, cheating and heartbreak. Here is what those answers add up to.
Wanting more, saying less: what six years of Purpur polls reveal about modern relationships
Since 2020 we have been asking you questions most people never ask out loud. How often do you have sex, and would you like more? Who pays at the checkout? Have you ever cheated? Do you talk to your parents about sex? You answered through story polls, question boxes, anonymous letters and long surveys. Sometimes a handful of you replied and sometimes more than a thousand, and the answers came with emoji, jokes and a lot of honesty.
We went back through six years of those answers to see what they add up to. This is not a scientific census. Everyone in our community chose to answer, and the note at the end explains the limits. What it does give is a picture of people trying to love each other well in ordinary life, with tired bodies, full calendars, silences inherited from their families and phones that never stop buzzing.
A few threads run through almost everything. People want more closeness than they have, and often more sex too. Many describe good sex in terms of safety and being heard rather than performance. Most find it harder to stand up for their own boundaries than to avoid crossing someone else's (69% vs 31%). And the topics that feel hardest to raise, from money to cheating to what happened in their families, are the ones they most wish they could talk about. Here is what you told us.
Sex and desire: wanting more, having less
One of our earliest polls, in 2020, asked two blunt questions: how often do you have sex, and what would you change? The most common answer to the first was "less than once a week", with 63 votes, against 36 votes for 1–2 times a week 1. The answers to the second were almost comically lopsided: 90 votes for more sex, 2 votes for less and 49 votes for "I'm happy with how things are (lucky me)" 1. Asked whether their desire matched their partner's, followers split exactly down the middle, with 50% saying yes and 50% saying no 1.
Would you like more sex, less, or is it fine as it is?
Our 2020 poll: 90 votes for more sex, just 2 for less 1
Why is there a gap? For the most part, not because love has gone. When 987 readers told us why sex disappears in long-term relationships, fatigue came first at 37%, ahead of loss of interest at 33% and lack of time at 17%. Accumulated arguments came last, at 13% 2. Stress hits the same nerve. In a stress poll, 228 votes said libido drops, 79 votes said it goes up and 49 votes said it doesn't really change 11. As one follower put it: "I can go a long time without wanting sex. Routine, chores, tiredness, and there you go..." 12.
Why does sex disappear in long-term relationships?
Tiredness beats lost interest, and arguments come last. Survey of 987 Purpur readers, 2022 2
Followers' end-of-2023 discoveries: wanting less is allowed 12
What stands out is how gently couples handle the mismatch. Most answers describe negotiating, not pushing: swapping sex for cuddles and talk, or waiting it out. "We don't pressure, we support each other and wait until our libidos match up" 11. Among the 2023 year-end discoveries followers shared, several were about permission not to want sex at all 13.
Wanting less is now allowed, but wanting more still matters. 39% of our followers find a long stretch without sex hard to cope with, and many describe regular sex as a sign of closeness and of feeling loved and needed, as well as a way to relieve tension 14. A psychologist answering your questions offered a useful anchor: "normal is whatever the partners have set as normal" 15.
Is a long stretch without sex hard for you?
of our followers find a long stretch without sex hard to cope with 14
What good sex actually means
When this community describes good sex, orgasm barely comes up. The answers are about feelings: mutual desire, safety, self-acceptance, aftercare and being able to stop without guilt 16. Our own answer card in a 2021 story crossed out 'Orgasm' and wrote 'Pleasure in the process' 17. Boring sex is defined the same way in reverse: selfishness, no emotional connection and a partner who ignores your pleasure 18.
Answers from the Purpur community, 2021 16
Even the ideal date leans away from the bedroom. 53 people said walks and heart-to-heart conversations, and only 8 people mentioned sex 19. Asked why they have sex at all, many followers named closeness and expressing feelings, others simply pleasure, and a few were disarmingly honest: "Because that's what people do 🫠" 20.
What people want from an ideal date
Answers to our 2020 question about the ideal date 19
Sound is part of the conversation too. 73% of the 1,500 Purpur readers who took our survey like being loud during sex 21. In the same survey, 61% of 1,316 people said they make sounds of pleasure on purpose, many of them to turn themselves and their partner on and to show what they like 21. Feedback can also turn into performance. In a survey of 959 people, those who had faked orgasms said they did it so as not to upset a partner, because a partner enjoyed it, to get it over with, or out of habit. They stopped when communication improved, when they changed partners or when they began to focus on themselves 22. And 63% say they think about how they look during sex 23.
How loud are you during sex? (1 = breathing, 5 = screaming)
Purpur loudness survey, 2022; 73% of the 1,500 readers who took it like being loud 21
Do you think about how you look during sex?
say they think about how they look during sex (Instagram story poll, 2020; vote count not shown) 23
Time and trust help. Readers in relationships describe moving from passion and awkward fumbling to sensuality and understanding; one answer credits losing shyness. In one couple's answer, she had 0 orgasms the first time they were together and has 2–3 orgasms now 24. Asked what turned them on when they first started having sex versus now, one answer read: before, 'A picture-perfect body'; now, 'My phone on silent' 25.
Consent: the hardest word is still no
Consent is where the answers turn serious. In our 2020 active-consent survey, 580 people told us how they agree on sex 26. In the comments we shared, several described being pressured or talked into it, or feeling guilty for "ruining the evening" when they said no. Years later we asked why people had agreed to sex they didn't want, and the reasons were about the relationship more than the body: fear of losing the connection, wanting to please, not daring to stop once things had started, or not having the energy to explain 27. One follower wrote: "I want sex less often, but it had been so long that it felt indecent to put it off any longer" 27.
Answers from the Purpur community, 2024 27
The pattern reaches beyond the bedroom. In a 2026 poll in Purpur's Telegram channel on personal boundaries, 69% said it is harder to understand and stand up for their own boundaries, compared with 31% who find it harder to understand and not violate other people's 4. One follower described the reaction many will recognise: "I freeze up, as if it's unpleasant for me, but I'm afraid to push back" 4.
Our own boundaries are the hard part
find it harder to understand and stand up for their own boundaries; 31% find it harder to understand and not violate other people's. Purpur Telegram poll, 2026 4
It hurts on both sides. One person who was turned down admitted: "My partner said she didn't want sex right now. It was hard for me to accept. It felt like I'd been rejected." 26. Followers who find saying no easy talk about trust and respect, and the phrases they use are simple: "Sorry, I'm not in the mood yet", "Let's not tonight?" 28. Purpur's own explainer on arousal adds one fact worth repeating: "Physical arousal does not equal consent to sex." 29.
First times show the same tension. Most followers in a quiz first had sex between 15 and 18 (332 people) 30. In a story poll, 74% remembered their first time as good 31. Yet when people described it in their own words, some called it confusing, strange or painful: "It was strange, and afterwards I lay there thinking: so this is what everyone's talking about?" 32. One thing followers wish they had known beforehand: "That you can stop it if something goes wrong along the way" 33. Finally, 71% say they have cried during or after sex 34. The reasons range from overwhelming closeness to crossed boundaries 35.
Do you ever cry during or after sex?
Anonymous follower question in a Purpur story poll, 2021 (vote count not shown) 34
Communication: talking it out, and why it's still hard
Almost nobody here believes sex can do the work of words. Only 5% of 1,359 people think sex can replace a conversation or an apology after a fight 3. In another poll, 83% said they are not used to making up with their partner through sex 3. Yet 62% say sex after a fight is especially hot 3. Our reading is that make-up sex can be a lovely full stop, as long as the conversation came first. Several followers said they would be upset or even leave if a partner reached for sex mid-argument; one called it simply a 'Red flag.' 3.
Make-up sex: hot, but no substitute for talking
Purpur make-up sex poll, 2022; the 5% figure is out of 1,359 people 3
The fights themselves are rarely dramatic. The top reasons are different ideas about what counts as clean, not enough time together and broken promises. Followers named talking it out as the perfect way to make up, and 93% of our followers say they are the first to make peace after a fight 36. That can't be true for both people in every couple, but it shows how much people want to be the one who reaches out.
Who makes peace first after a fight?
9 in 1093% of our followers are the first to make peace after a fight; the perfect way to make up, per followers: talking it out (poll, 2022) 36
When we asked what an ideal couple looks like, the answers barely varied: "They hear each other" 37. In practice, the conversations are harder. Only 25% of followers have talked with their partner about both their parents and sex 38, and in a 2024 story poll, 21% said they are embarrassed to discuss sex 39. Alongside wet towels and cracked toes, many of the habits that annoy people are emotional: "When I tell him about my feelings and worries, he writes 'Don't worry about it'" 40. In a men-only survey, many men named the same gap in themselves, listing "Expressing my emotions" as a weakness 41.
There are hopeful signs. In a 2022 story poll, 83% said they go to family therapy or are considering it 42. Many followers would rather say plainly that they want sex than drop hints: "I say 'I want you', 'I want sex'. I'm no good at hinting, it comes across as clumsy" 43. A psychologist answering your questions summed it up: "Talking about sex is very sexy. But of course it isn't easy." 44.
Purpur followers shared their sexy hints (2025) 43
Family: the conversations nobody had with us
Ask people where they learned about sex and parents barely appear. In one poll in Purpur's Telegram channel, only 5% of people had parents who talked openly about sex 45. In a 2022 Telegram survey, 36% never discussed sex with their parents in any way 5. Overall, respondents learned about sex mainly from films and TV (39%), friends (38%) and books (19%) 5. And 70% remember the same moment: a sex scene came on during family movie night, nobody discussed it and everyone pretended nothing was happening 5.
Where you learned about sex
Top sources of sex education named by readers. 244 people took the survey, 2022. 5
Sex scenes during family movie nights
When a sex scene came on during family movie nights, nobody discussed it and everyone pretended nothing was happening. 244 people took the survey, 2022. 5
Followers' answers, 2022. 5
The silence left marks. Followers describe discovering masturbation as young children and spending years thinking something was wrong with them, or not discovering it until adulthood: "At 20... before that I didn't even know girls do that 🥲 but it was great))" 46. The marriage "wisdom" passed down from mothers and grandmothers often taught women to put up with things. One follower's grandmother told her: "Sometimes you have to put up with it and keep quiet if something's wrong" 47.
Abortion is the clearest taboo of all. In a survey of 586 people, 11% of respondents had had an abortion, and 67% of them told someone close. Of those who told someone, 78% confided in partners and friends and 50% in parents or family 48. The pressure they mention most often came from doctors, though some also describe partners and parents pushing them 49.
Who people told about their abortion
Breakdown is among those who told someone; people could name more than one person 48
It is not all silence. Some followers describe parents they can talk to easily 5, and some list traits they inherited, such as caring, sensitivity and a love of animals, alongside anxiety and perfectionism 50. Some of the questions people still want to ask their parents are about love itself 51, and one of the family fears they name looks backwards too: repeating what was done to them 52.
Long-term love: closeness, space and keeping yourself
In one story poll, 97% agreed that in long relationships sex happens through a coincidence of pleasant circumstances 53. The idea came from a 33-year-old reader who wrote that it took his couple several years to learn each other's circumstances, and who added, cheerfully, "guys, sex after 30 is way better than sex at 20." 54. Long love, in this view, is something you build deliberately rather than something you wait for.
Instagram story poll, 2020; vote count not shown 53
Space is where the data gets interesting. In a poll of 357 people, 74% say they have enough personal space in their relationship, 14% don't, and 12% have never thought about it 55. Yet in another poll, of 246 people, only 14% believe they keep their individuality in relationships. 86% notice how they change, and of them, 26% feel they merge with their partner 6. The two polls suggest that having room of your own and keeping your sense of self may be different things.
Purpur survey of 357 people, 2023 55
Keeping yourself in a relationship
Survey of 246 people in Purpur's Telegram channel, 2023. Of those who change, 26% feel they merge with their partners 6
Life events reshape intimacy. For some couples, moving in together brings a feeling of home, but for some it makes sex less of a priority 56. Children cut time and energy, and sex has to fit into naps and tired evenings 57. One new mother summed it up: "In short, it all comes down to a lack of energy. Mostly mine." 58. Other parents say the opposite: "Since the kids were born, sex has become better and more interesting." 57.
How do these relationships start? 59% have to be in love, while 41% are fine with just liking someone and may fall in love later 59. On marriage, 55% want to marry, 37% say it doesn't matter to them and 8% are already married 60. 48% will wait for a proposal, 30% are ready to propose themselves and 22% don't want a wedding at all 61. What keeps couples close is usually small: being able to drop the act ("When you don't have to pretend") 62 and texts as ordinary as "On my way home" 63.
Followers' open answers, 2024 62
The body: learning to live in it
Followers describe many routes to loving their bodies. Some walked around the house naked, danced or took nudes. Others got there through sex and masturbation, sport, clothes, a partner's admiring gaze, or simply seeing lots of real, varied bodies, for example in a public bathhouse 64. Partners matter here: 85% are not bothered by their partner's body hair 65.
Does your partner's body hair bother you?
85% are not bothered by their partner's body hair. Instagram story stat card, 2022; no sample size given. 65
Followers' answers, 2022 64
Attraction is often more ordinary than glossy. 83% say smells turn them on 66. Asked what sex smells like, many name everyday things like sweat, skin, hair, shampoo and perfume, though some go further: wine, spices, latex, a snuffed-out candle 66. What makes followers feel sexy is often comfort and self-care: "Sometimes in my favourite hoodie 🖤" 67, or "when I'm well fed, my head is clear and I have money" 68.
Periods are handled with less shame than you might expect. Asked how desire changes during menstruation, 450 votes said it goes up, 168 votes said it goes down and 246 votes said it stays the same, and 113 weren't sure 69. The barriers people mention are mostly physical and practical: pain, mess and laundry 69. Fans of period sex mention intense sensations, but also something deeper: feeling desired no matter how you look 70.
What happens to your desire during your period?
- 1It goes up450 votes
- 2The same246 votes
- 3It goes down168 votes
- 4Oh, I don't know113 votes
Community poll, 2022; vote counts as posted 69
Sexual health is taken seriously, even though it still carries shame. 77% have been tested for STIs, 15% have never been tested and 8% hadn't been tested but now plan to; the post did not report a sample size 7. 22% were diagnosed with an STI, and 11% told no one, though they wanted to 7. One follower described STIs as "something shameful if you have one, and easy if you're just discussing it" 71. Self-acceptance does not have to mean loving every part of yourself. A woman with severe atopic dermatitis described a more modest and very relatable goal 72.
Have you been tested for STIs?
- 1Have been tested77%
- 2Have never been tested15%
- 3Haven't been tested, but now plan to8%
Purpur data survey, 2023; 22% were diagnosed with an STI; the post did not report a sample size 7
Fantasy and reality: monogamy, openness and threesomes
Most of this community chooses monogamy: 78% (508 people) against 22% (143 people) for polyamory 73. Curiosity is real, though. When asked about open relationships, 332 people said definitely not, 173 people said they want to try and 42 people said they already practise them 73. In a differently worded 2022 poll, 16% wanted to try an open relationship in the future, 150 people out of 937 74. The two polls asked different questions in different years, so they can't be compared directly, but both show a sizeable curious minority.
Monogamy or polyamory?
Purpur poll, 2020: 508 people chose monogamy and 143 chose polyamory 73
What do you think about open relationships?
Same 2020 Purpur poll: 173 people want to try an open relationship and 42 already practise one 73
Imagination goes further than practice. Many have sex with someone other than their partner in their fantasies, most often with people they know and their friends (20%) 75. 61% fantasize about a threesome 76, but in a separate poll asking simply "Threesome?", 46% (139 people) said yes and 54% (160) no 77. When asked which fantasy will only ever stay a fantasy, 90% answered group sex 78.
Do you fantasise about a threesome?
Answered yes to "Do you fantasize about a threesome?" (Instagram story poll, 2021; sticker: 606 people) 76
The gap may be wise. The threesome stories followers shared are mixed. One calls it the best sex of her life; another describes a drunken threesome as trauma; a third lost a friendship: "It turned out unpleasant: everyone knew each other, and the friendship came to an end." 79. Sex with friends draws the same caution. 40% don't support the idea, mainly for fear of losing the friendship 80.
Followers explain their monogamy just as honestly: "I don't have the energy to give love to more than one person." 81. Some admit their choice is about not being ready rather than principle.
Followers who choose exclusivity explain why, 2021 81
Cheating and trust
On the classic myths about infidelity, the community is nearly unanimous. Asked whether the betrayed partner is to blame for cheating, followers voted Yes — 6%, No — 94%. Asked whether men are non-monogamous and can't be expected to be faithful, they voted Yes — 3%, No — 97% 9.
Nearly everyone voted against both myths. Purpur Instagram polls, 2021; sample size not stated 9
Could you forgive cheating?
An almost even split, yet only 32% say cheating means the relationship is over. Purpur Instagram poll, 2021; sample size not stated 9
Have you ever cheated?
Almost a third of followers said yes, they have cheated themselves. Purpur Instagram poll, 2021; sample size not stated 9
Followers' definitions range from emotional closeness to deception and broken agreements 9
On what to actually do, the community is divided. Only 32% say cheating means the relationship is over, while 68% say it doesn't 9. On forgiveness the split is almost even, 47% yes and 53% no 9. Interestingly, more people say they couldn't forgive cheating (53%) than say it automatically ends the relationship (32%). And 31% admit they have cheated themselves 9.
Part of the disagreement is about definitions. For some, cheating is emotional: "If my partner starts treating someone else the way they treat me". For others it is about deception, or about crossing agreed lines 9. One follower's biggest fear is a partner falling in love with someone else 9.
The personal stories show how long the damage lasts. More than one follower describes a parent's affair as a lasting childhood wound 82 83. Forgiving can save a relationship and still leave a scar on self-worth 83. One couple split up after the affair and came back together a year later "with new strength" 83. Discovery is often absurdly ordinary: "Found a sketchy toothbrush in the bathroom" 84. A psychologist's advice applies to every kind of relationship: "The way to prevent jealousy (in open and closed relationships alike) is honest, open conversation." 44.
Money: the hard topic
Money is one of the hardest things for followers to talk about. In a 2021 poll on what is hard to discuss, finances (237 votes) far outran death (106) and therapy (86) 8. In a 2025 survey of 180 people, 39% said they talk about money most easily with friends, 25% with a partner and 12% with parents, while 24% said it's hard with everyone 85. In the same survey, 60% said they wouldn't work if they didn't have to, and 40% would work for the love of it 85.
What is hard for you to discuss?
- 1Finances237 votes
- 2Death106 votes
- 3Therapy86 votes
- 4All of them23 votes
Purpur community poll, March 2021 8
#purpurdata on money energy, 2025, based on a survey of 180 people 85
If you didn't have to work, would you still work?
Purpur data, 2025, based on a survey of 180 people 85
Asked to describe their relationship with money in one word, followers reached for the language of bad romance, with words like "abusive 😝" and "Unrequited! I give them all of myself, they give me nothing 😂" 86.
In practice, couples are flexible. Several followers split costs in proportion to income rather than 50/50, "Otherwise the rich get richer and the poor get poorer", though some still split equally 87. At the checkout, many couples improvise: "Whoever gets their card out faster 😂", or whoever can that day, as long as things balance out over time, though some agree on it in advance 88.
Income gaps still show up in the relationship. The partner who depends on the other may feel guilty and speak up less. The higher earner may hold back their own spending, or miss out on holidays together, or, as one admitted, "If my partner's income is much lower, I start to dominate them." 89. One follower named the real danger: silence. "If it goes on for a long time and isn't talked about, it gradually starts to weigh on you and get irritating." 89. Opinions on a partner quitting work are split: some say no outright, while others are open to it if it is discussed: "I'd want this to be discussed with me: what's the plan" 90.
Purpur community answers, 2026 89
Dating, ghosting and breakups
Ghosting cuts both ways in this community: 73% of 867 followers polled have ghosted someone, and 21% did nothing after being ghosted, though they would have liked to know why 91 10. Ghosters often describe it as self-protection, for example after someone ignored a clearly stated "no" (which, the post points out, isn't really ghosting at all) 92. Several now look back on their own ghosting as immature 92. For those on the receiving end, reactions ranged from simply moving on to needing therapy 92.
Ghosting from both sides
Purpur follower poll (#purpurdata), 2022; those who did nothing would still have liked to know why 91
On dates, people are tired of the job interview. The most repeated complaint is retelling your life story from scratch: "Tell me about yourself" 🙃 93. Yet the questions followers are afraid to ask are the ones that matter most: money, kids, sex, past breakups and what the other person actually wants 94. At least on the first move there is a clear verdict: 87% think you should text first 95.
Should you text first?
Purpur Instagram story poll, 2021; vote count not stated 95
Endings leave long tails. 56% of followers polled said they stalk ex-friends on social media, and one follower says losing a friend hurts more than losing a boyfriend 96. The weirdest breakup stories include two people dumped for outperforming a partner, one for scoring higher on final exams, another because "He said I was too smart for him" 97. Exes leave lessons behind as well, from "Not to lower my standards" to oddly practical skills 98.
Do you check your ex-friends' social media?
6 in 10of followers polled said they stalk ex-friends on social media (Purpur poll, 2024) 96
Followers' answers to a Purpur community poll, 2022 97
The heartbreak letters are the most tender part of the archive. One writer says no one has ever chosen her; another reminds readers that "needing love is nothing to be ashamed of, and being sad about your loneliness is nothing to be ashamed of either" 99. And several followers say a breakup or divorce they feared turned out to be a beginning 100.
How we know this
This article draws on Instagram story polls, question boxes, posts, anonymous letters and longer surveys answered by Purpur followers between 2020 and 2026, plus polls and surveys in Purpur's Telegram channel. Several of the figures quoted here, including the boundaries, individuality and talking-to-parents numbers, come from Telegram. Everyone who answered chose to, so this is not a representative sample of anyone beyond our own community. Sample sizes vary widely, from a 20-response poll to a 1,629-person survey, and many story polls did not record a vote count. Some Telegram questions allowed more than one answer. Polls from different years often asked slightly different questions, so we compare them with care and point out where they don't line up. Open-ended answers are quoted as written, emoji included, and they show the range of experience, not how common each view is. Where Purpur articles cite outside research or experts, we have said so and not presented it as community data. Treat these numbers as a portrait of one honest, talkative community, not as statistics about everyone.
If we had to pick one lesson from six years of your answers, it would be this: much of what hurts in relationships seems to come not from a lack of love but from a lack of words. People want more closeness and are tired. They know what good sex feels like, and many find their own boundaries harder to hold than other people's. In a survey of 180 people, more found money easier to discuss with friends (39%) than with a partner (25%) 85. Many grew up with their parents' silences. None of this means anything is broken. It means there are conversations still waiting to happen.
So here is a small invitation. Pick one question from this article tonight. It could be "what does good sex mean to you?", "who taught you about money?" or "what would you like more of?". Ask it gently, listen to the answer, then answer it yourself. If you'd like some help getting started, Purpur's games are full of questions like these. A kitchen table and a bit of curiosity will also do. Our own belief, after reading all of this, is that the couples who feel closest aren't the ones who never struggle. They're the ones who keep talking.
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- Make-up sex after a fight: your answers
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- Individuality in relationships
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- Sex: then and now
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- Nonconcordance: what is it?
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- Marriage stereotypes our families taught us: your answers
- How your family talked about abortion: your answers
- Abortion. Pressure
- How you take after your parents: your answers
- What you'd ask your parents, change about your childhood and thank your family for: your answers
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- Personal space in relationships
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- Sex and kids
- Sense and sensibility these days
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- What helped you love your body?
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- What does sex smell like: your answers
- I feel sexy in...: your answers
- I feel sexy when…
- Sex during your period: your answers
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- For me, STIs are...
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- Cheating stories
- The strangest way you found out about cheating: your answers
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- How do you decide who pays at the checkout: your answers
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- How would you feel if your partner decided not to work?
- Ghosting
- Ghosting from both sides: your answers
- What annoys you about first dates: your answers
- What am I afraid to ask on a date?
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- Do you stalk your ex-friends on social media: your answers
- The weirdest reason for a breakup: your answers
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