Sex diary: a sex blogger and her diary without sex

Does a sex blogger have sex?

I'll probably say something unpopular, but in the normal course of life, one long, full, energy-charged, quality session of sex a month is quite enough for me.

When I saw that Purpur was looking for authors for a Sex diary without sex, someone to share what that's like, I thought: well, that's easy! Let me tell you why.

I'm a public figure in the sex-positive community, so every day I get about 10 offers of sex, illustrated with dick pics, porn clips and written fantasies.

This Monday I also decided to sign up on a swingers' site, looking for new acquaintances with the prospect of a long-term relationship.

Sometimes, of course, other people's fantasies leave me a little gobsmacked. It doesn't last long, about 5 seconds, and then I move on. My DMs have another 150 conversations to sort through.

P.S. There was no sex.

I want to find my SW here, someone I'll make happier every day)

Hi!) You're gorgeous :) great interests, I like it :)

I get it) But I'm sure you'd appreciate me as a lover) And then we'd see)

Hi, would you consider getting to know a hot, sensible guy?

A girl with a deep sense of pleasure? Shall we get to know each other better?

Good day. A gangbang is a wonderful hobby. And twice as wonderful when your wife loves them. You have beautiful photos. Shall we get acquainted?

My work involves testing intimate toys. I decided to see how my new acquaintances from the swingers' sites would react to a voice recording of the sounds of my orgasm. Usually I like to share visuals (photos/videos), but I decided to experiment.

The result: one wished me a good morning in return, the second didn't understand a thing, the third recorded the same kind of audio in reply, and the fourth answered with a compliment.

P.S. There was no sex.

I have a new toy waiting to be reviewed: a vibrating insert for panties. I've dreamed about it for a long time. You can test it in all kinds of situations, with that hidden public element that turns me on.

I'm making a plan and fantasising about where I'll take it: a walk across the city's bridges, a shop, a date, a party, maybe even a business meeting ;) What can I do, it's my job)

I remember that I wanted to do a comparative review of arousal gels, and I have almost 15 of them. Each one has to be rated for intensity, convenience, stickiness, taste and safety of use. Well, let's get started.

P.S. There was no sex. Or was there…? Does solo sex count?)

Being a blogger and marketer means constantly looking for inspiration and coming up with new creative ideas.

I decided to pick an atmospheric sexy film for the evening. Which one should it be? "Lovelace", the story of the star of "Deep Throat"; the miniseries "Masters of Sex", about the pioneers of the science of sexuality; or the documentary series "Bad Girls' Fantasies", about what real sex workers actually dream and fantasise about? Off to stock up on a blanket and some wine.

P.S. There was no sex.

I'm going to a kinky party.

I don't have a regular partner right now, and I don't feel like experimenting with new people and strangers yet. But I do want to be in an atmosphere I love, hug my friends and watch other people's beautiful sex live. That's a kind of pleasure in its own right.

P.S. Other people had sex, I didn't.

It's my day off.

You know, sex isn't only physical contact. It's everything you love, everything that gives you pleasure. It's life itself. Anything can bring you amazing sensations: food, music, scents, favourite activities, art, a beautiful atmosphere. I'm always put in a sensual mood by hot chocolate, the scent of pink pepper and roses, sexy-sounding tracks (Lana Del Rey, Billie Eilish, Cigarettes After Sex, Tricky and others), and materials in a room that feel good to the touch: the cool smoothness of black marble or the intricate textures of bronze sculptures, warm fine wood, natural leather, the airiness and shine of clear coloured glass.

Anyway, today I'll treat myself to a hot bubble bath.

I take part in conversations about sex, in all its variations and forms, every day. Sometimes it gets so tiring that you just don't want it.

What I want is sincere conversation about simple things, human warmth, ordinary joys of life like new shoes, a calm morning or stroking a purring cat.

Besides sex, life has a million other wonderful things that need your energy: your hobbies, work, family, sport. I wish you pleasure in everything around you, whether or not there's sex in your life. Because if you know how to enjoy life, you feel it everywhere.

Out of all the conversations I picked out on Monday, I found 4 sensible candidates. Cheers! I'm setting up a date :)

I'm not promising anything, but maybe this will be the start of great sex.

Are we still on for the 4th? Yes?)

For coffee?) Yes :)

Coffee, of course. I'm not ready to make indecent proposals to a hypothetical future wife)

Of course :) all indecent proposals after the wedding 😁

So it's quite possible we'll go straight to the registry office? 😁

Things are getting interesting))

Have you been to the contemporary art museum, by the way?)