First relationships: how not to get burned

A first relationship is a meaningful experience that brings new feelings and stories.

Every relationship is unique, but there are some common things worth remembering. They can help make a relationship happier and more enjoyable, and keep painful experiences to a minimum.

Relationships go through different stages.

At first, a relationship brings a rush of vivid emotions, but after a while the state of being in love fades and calmer feelings take its place.

This is normal. It doesn't mean the relationship has gone bad. It has simply moved into a different state.

A relationship doesn't replace the rest of your life.

Yes, it becomes a big part of it, but it's important not to forget about your life outside the relationship: hobbies, seeing friends, your career and so on.

This helps you stay yourself and bring something new into the relationship.

Take care of your own needs.

It's easy to start focusing only on what your partner wants and to cross your own boundaries. But be honest with yourself and with each other.

Do what truly gives you pleasure and what you really want to do.

There should be no pressure in a relationship.

Emotional or physical coercion and talking someone into things are bad signs. Remember: no means no.

You can say no, and you can be told no. It's normal not to want everything the other person suggests.

Be gentle with each other in your sexual relationship.

For some people sex is an important part of a relationship; for others it isn't necessary at all.

Talk with your partner about your expectations around sex, so you understand how well you match on this, can find a way of being together that suits you both and avoid misunderstandings.

Remember that there is no such thing as the "right" relationship.

A relationship can develop quickly or slowly, both guys and girls can take the initiative, and there is nothing "mandatory" that has to happen in a relationship.

Talk to each other about how you feel, take care of your own well-being and be gentle with each other, and then your relationship will be a pleasant experience.