Where is the line between personal and work in your relationship? (part 2)

Unfortunately (for him), sometimes I don't feel that line. We started out making cakes at home: we'd watch TV series together in the kitchen, I'd be making a cake at the same time, and he'd actively help me.

Now I go to work at our production kitchen, and he handles his tasks remotely. But when I come home for dinner, we can discuss work for ages. Or on vacation he sometimes starts sharing ideas and thoughts about growing the business.

Honestly, there's no clear line. And that's probably the hardest part of our relationship. As a little life hack, during arguments we've started asking out loud:

"Are we talking right now as business partners or as a man and a woman?"

It helps us not carry work emotions into our personal relationship, and vice versa.

At work he always sees things through and sorts out every problem: without him I'd have closed down long ago, and I love that about him.

But in everyday life this level-headedness shows up in how slowly he makes decisions, and I don't always like that.

She is incredibly demanding about quality. She always achieves a perfect result and perfect cleanliness. For the business it's a huge advantage: that's exactly why our cakes turn out the way clients expect them to.

But at home this love of perfect order stays too. So when a big deep clean starts, I usually try to quietly disappear.

Our relationship started at work, so it's hard to answer. In my view, working together really brings you closer. But after we opened our production kitchen things got easier, because there was now a separation between home and work. We had employees and the ability to delegate some things to them. And time for a personal life.

Among pastry chefs you often meet couples who never hire staff and work together all the time, and that surprises me. We've been through that: you can live like that for 1–2 years at most, then comes burnout and the end.

Yes, it changes it a lot. It feels like working together speeds a relationship up. It's like people in hazardous professions, where one year counts as two or three.

We work, rest, discuss ideas, solve problems and go through crises together almost without a break.

That's why our seven years feel much longer.

"Hard, interesting, exciting"

"Hearing each other"