Practices to become closer: part 2

Part 2.

(On the card:) "Which of my recent actions made you catch yourself thinking that you're in love with me?"

Movement

Put on some music and close your eyes. Start moving however you feel like, knowing that no one can see you, yet sensing that your partner is right there beside you.

After a few minutes, come together and try moving as a pair, taking turns to lead and to follow.

Open questions

Ask each other questions that let you share what matters to you. For example:

"What words in our messages make you smile?"

"What's important to you when we spend time together?"

"What do I do that makes you feel desired?"

"What does good sex mean to you?"

"How can you tell that I'm getting aroused?"

Support

Stand up and turn your backs to each other.

Try leaning lightly on your partner (important: shift your body weight evenly and gradually).

Feel how you can rely on the other person, and how they can lean on you.

Over time, relax a little more and give more of your body weight to the other person.

Dreams as a way to become closer

Tell each other about the dreams that inspire you, and which of them you'd like to make come true together.

Gradually, you can move on to fantasies and tell each other what you'd like to try in sex.

How to share what you felt during the practices

• Talk only about your own feelings
• Ask open questions if your partner finds it hard to share what they felt
• Be open and don't judge the other person's feelings

Every question is a dive into a sensation. Try to feel and discuss with your partner how you sense your own body and how you sense theirs. How you understand, and feel, what you want and what your partner wants. While you talk, keep your attention on your bodily sensations and take your time.

Intimacy starts with honesty

Honesty with yourself and with others.