Quotable statistics from six years of Purpur community polls on love, sex, money and family. Free to cite with credit to Purpur.
57 statistics · how the polls work: About PurpurMag5% of 1,359 people who answered a 2022 Purpur poll think sex can replace a conversation or an apology after a fight.
Purpur make-up sex poll, 2022 (1,359 people)83% of people who answered a 2022 Purpur make-up sex poll are not used to making up with their partner through sex.
Purpur make-up sex poll, 2022; sample size not stated for this figure93% of Purpur followers polled in 2022 say they are the first to make peace after a fight.
Purpur follower poll, 2022; sample size not stated21% of Purpur followers polled in 2024 said they are embarrassed to discuss sex but give it a try anyway.
Instagram story poll stat card, 2024; no sample given37% of 987 Purpur readers named fatigue as the reason sex disappears in long-term relationships, ahead of loss of interest at 33%.
Purpur survey of 987 readers, 202213% of 987 Purpur readers blamed accumulated arguments for sex disappearing in long-term relationships, the least-chosen reason.
Purpur survey of 987 readers, 202297% of Purpur followers polled in 2020 agreed that in long relationships sex happens more by a coincidence of pleasant circumstances, which couples should help happen.
Instagram story poll on a follower's quote, 2020; vote count not shown14% of 246 Purpur readers surveyed in 2023 believe they keep their individuality in a relationship; 86% notice how they change.
Purpur Telegram channel survey of 246 people, 202326% of Purpur readers who notice themselves changing in a relationship feel they merge with their partner, in a 2023 Telegram survey of 246 people.
Purpur Telegram channel survey of 246 people, 2023; 26% is of the 86% who notice they change74% of 357 people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey say they have enough personal space in their relationship; 14% say they do not.
Purpur survey of 357 people, 2023 (12% have never thought about it)55% of 471 people who answered a 2022 Purpur poll want to get married; 37% say it does not matter to them.
Purpur poll, 2022 (471 respondents; 8% already married)48% of 310 Purpur readers surveyed in 2024 would wait for a proposal, while 30% are ready to propose themselves.
Purpur Telegram channel survey of 310 people, 2024 · Source: Purpur data: the proposal22% of 310 Purpur readers surveyed in 2024 do not want a wedding at all.
Purpur Telegram channel survey of 310 people, 2024 · Source: Purpur data: the proposal90 votes in a 2020 Purpur poll asked for more sex, against 2 votes for less and 49 for keeping things as they are.
Purpur community poll, 2020 (vote counts as posted)50% of Purpur followers who answered a 2020 poll said their desire for sex matches their partner's; the other 50% said it does not.
Purpur community poll, 2020; sample size not stated39% of Purpur followers in a poll published in 2023 said they find a long stretch without sex hard to cope with.
Purpur follower poll, published 2023; sample size not stated450 votes in a 2022 Purpur poll said desire goes up during a period, against 168 saying it goes down and 246 saying it stays the same.
Purpur community poll, 2022 (vote counts as posted; 113 votes 'I don't know')61% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 Instagram story poll said they fantasise about a threesome.
Instagram story poll, 202173% of the 1,500 Purpur readers who took a 2022 survey on loudness during sex said they like being loud.
Purpur loudness survey, 2022 (1,500 readers)65% of Purpur readers in a 2022 survey rated their loudness during sex 3 or 4 on a scale from 1 (breathing) to 5 (screaming).
Purpur loudness survey, 2022 (1,500 readers took it); 18% chose 1 or 2, 17% chose 561% of 1,316 Purpur readers who answered a 2022 survey question said they make sounds of pleasure during sex on purpose.
Purpur survey, 2022 (1,316 people answered this question)71% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 story poll said yes when asked whether they ever cry during or after sex.
Instagram story poll, 2021; vote count not shown83% of Purpur followers who answered a 2020 poll said smells turn them on.
Purpur poll, 2020; sample size not given74% of Purpur followers who answered a 2020 story poll remember their first sex as good; 26% remember it as bad.
Instagram story poll, 2020 (sticker: 191 people on the 'good' side)62% of Purpur followers who answered a 2022 make-up sex poll said sex after a fight is especially hot.
Purpur make-up sex poll, 2022; sample size for this question not stated69% of Purpur readers polled in 2026 find it harder to understand and stand up for their own boundaries than to understand and not violate other people's.
Purpur Telegram poll, 2026; sample size not reported; 31% chose understanding and not violating other people's boundaries · Source: Who, where and how violates personal boundaries?11% of 586 people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey on abortion have had an abortion.
Purpur survey of 586 people, 202367% of people in a 2023 Purpur survey who have had an abortion shared it with people close to them.
Purpur survey of 586 people, 2023, 11% of whom have had an abortion77% of people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey on STI testing have been tested for STIs.
#purpurdata survey, September 2023; sample size not reported22% of people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey on STI testing said they had been diagnosed with an STI.
#purpurdata survey, September 2023; sample size not reported15% of people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey on STI testing have never been tested for STIs.
#purpurdata survey, September 2023; sample size not reported8% of people who answered a 2023 Purpur survey on STI testing have not been tested but now plan to be.
#purpurdata survey, September 2023; sample size not reported85% of Purpur followers polled in 2022 are not bothered by their partner's body hair.
Instagram story stat card, May 2022; no sample size given63% of Purpur followers who answered a 2020 Instagram story poll think about how they look during sex.
Instagram story poll, October 2020; vote count not shown36% of 244 Purpur readers surveyed in 2022 never discussed sex with their parents in any way.
Purpur survey, 2022 (244 people)70% of Purpur readers in a 2022 survey said when a sex scene came on during family movie nights, nobody discussed it and everyone pretended nothing was happening.
Purpur survey on talking to parents about sex, 2022; sample size not stated for this figure39% of Purpur readers in a 2022 survey learned about sex from films and TV, 38% from friends and 19% from books.
Purpur survey on talking to parents about sex, 2022; sample size not stated for this figure56% of Purpur followers polled in 2024 said they stalk their ex-friends on social media.
Purpur follower poll, 2024; sample size not stated · Source: Do you stalk your ex-friends on social media: your answers83% of Purpur followers shown a 2022 Instagram story stat say they go to family therapy or are considering it.
Instagram story stat card, October 2022; sample size not shown78% of people in a 2023 Purpur survey who had an abortion and shared it told partners and friends.
Purpur survey of 586 people, 2023; respondents could name more than one person237 votes went to finances when a March 2021 Purpur poll asked followers what is hard to discuss; death got 106 votes and therapy 86.
Purpur community poll, March 2021; options were therapy, finances, death, all of them (23 votes)39% of 180 people who answered a 2025 Purpur survey find it easiest to talk about money with friends.
#purpurdata survey of 180 people, November 2025; exact question wording not printed in the post · Source: Purpur data on money energy24% of 180 people who answered a 2025 Purpur survey say talking about money is hard with everyone.
#purpurdata survey of 180 people, November 2025 · Source: Purpur data on money energy12% of 180 people who answered a 2025 Purpur survey find it easiest to talk about money with their parents.
#purpurdata survey of 180 people, November 2025; exact question wording not printed in the post · Source: Purpur data on money energy60% of 180 people who answered a 2025 Purpur survey would not work if they did not have to; 40% would work for the love of it.
#purpurdata survey of 180 people, November 2025 · Source: Purpur data on money energy47% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 poll say they could forgive cheating; 53% say they could not.
Purpur community poll, January 2021; sample size not stated68% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 poll said cheating does not mean the relationship is over.
Purpur community poll, January 2021; sample size not stated94% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 poll rejected the idea that when a partner cheats, the other partner is to blame.
Purpur community poll, January 2021; sample size not stated97% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 poll rejected the claim that men are non-monogamous, so expecting them to be faithful is pointless.
Purpur community poll, January 2021; sample size not stated31% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 poll said they have cheated.
Purpur community poll, January 2021; sample size not stated78% of Purpur followers who answered a 2020 poll chose monogamy over polyamory, by 508 votes to 143.
Purpur community poll, November 2020 (508 votes for monogamy, 143 for polyamory)332 Purpur followers who answered a 2020 poll said 'definitely not' to open relationships; 173 want to try one and 42 already practise one.
Purpur community poll, November 202073% of 867 Purpur followers polled in 2022 have ghosted someone.
Purpur Instagram story, August 2022, based on polls of 867 followers21% of Purpur followers polled in 2022 did nothing after being ghosted, though they would have liked to know why.
#purpurdata follower poll, August 2022; sample size not stated87% of Purpur followers who answered a 2021 Instagram story poll said you should text first.
Purpur Instagram story poll, January 2021; vote count not stated59% of 230 Purpur readers polled on Telegram in 2024 said they have to be in love, rather than just liking someone.
Purpur Telegram channel poll, September 2024 (230 readers) · Source: Sense and sensibility these days53 Purpur followers described their ideal date as walks and heart-to-heart conversations in a 2020 poll; only 8 mentioned sex.
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