How to talk about STI test results and sexual health
A sex therapist on how to bring up test results with your partner, plus a date idea and a checklist of tests to take.
How to talk about STI test results and sexual health
"No test results, no pussy" – as our Purpur followers put it.
A sex therapist helps you figure out how to start a conversation about test results with your partners, and shares a great date idea!
And on the last card, Purpur has put together a to-do list of tests.
Asking your partner about their test results can feel nerve-racking, embarrassing, scary.
And that's normal!
Sex is a taboo topic, so we often feel ashamed talking about it. And STIs even more so: these infections are considered "dirty".
To feel less embarrassed, remind yourself that sexually transmitted infections are no worse than "ordinary" ones.
Why is it not shameful to say you've had COVID, but shameful to say you've had chlamydia?
When COVID started, people on dating apps would ask their matches how they were feeling before a date and suggest rescheduling if there were any signs of a cold. Now we're asked to show vaccination certificates, and these are reasonable, necessary steps we've already got used to.
It's the same with STI test results: you're simply taking care of your own health and your partner's.
Carrying recent test results with you if you're actively dating and often change partners is a sign of awareness and responsibility.
If you're planning a long-term relationship, you can go and get tested together. A date of sorts ;)
Your partner refuses to get tested
Maybe your partner is afraid of medical facilities and procedures. Talk about it openly and show empathy. Explain that it matters for the health of all partners, and support them while they get tested.
If that's not the issue, it's a red flag. Maybe this isn't the person you should be having sex with.
Communication will help you figure out which is which.
Which tests to take?
Swab for chlamydia, mycoplasma, ureaplasma, trichomoniasis, gonorrhea, herpes and HPV.
Blood test for HIV, hepatitis B and C, and syphilis.
