How not to feel sad that there's no tree and no one to celebrate with?
And other questions for a psychologist before the New Year
How not to feel sad that there's no tree and no one to celebrate with?
So how are you holding up, stressed? A psychologist and psychoanalyst soothes our pre-New Year anxieties.
How not to feel sad that there's no tree and no one to celebrate with?
How can you switch off one emotion and switch on another one in its place? After all, if you want a tree and company around you, and you don't have them, then you feel sadness and regret. The answer to "how not to be sad" would be roughly this: be sad until it stops being sad.
Another question is how to throw yourself a great celebration in the circumstances you have right now. But try asking yourself that one.
How do you stop blaming yourself for getting tired and not getting much done?
Imagine that your energy is the battery percentage on your gadget. You need to order a taxi, transfer money in your online bank, reply to a message in a messenger and move a few photos to Google Drive. And your phone is at 2%. And you're standing out in the freezing cold. The phone will, of course, die on the very first task.
What can you do? Scold the phone for failing, and Tim Cook for designing such a useless robot. Is that productive?
There's another option. Set priorities. The taxi first, everything else can wait. And try to prevent situations like this by taking care of charging in advance, aka rest and recovery.
How do you stop blaming yourself? Just remind yourself that even devices need charging and rest. Otherwise they can't cope. Not to mention us, who are far more complex and fragile.
What do you do when this is the second New Year in a row you'll spend alone?
Shift your focus from the lack of company to the quality of the celebration. Okay, you'll be on your own. But what would you like to do? What would you like to eat, do, look like, where would you like to go?
Your best dress, champagne, a New Year's greeting from a popular political scientist, ordering food from your favourite restaurant, writing down plans for the next year. Put together your own unique recipe for this super-private celebration.
